i do tend to agree with you, on both points, i dont want them to know enough to calculate challenge ratings, and what not, besides the fact that i done usually stick to them.  we are here to have fun yes,

 

BUT

 

lets take one person, who, because of my own stupidity, i resurected as a centaur, and she now gets 5 billion attacks and what not, and her combat turn takes 3 days to complete, shes not enjoying feelings dumb because she doesnt know what shes doing, no one else is enjoying watching her count on her fingers, and brainstorm to try and figure out what shes doing, and those of us who have to help her arent enjoying answering the same questions 5 fimes on one of her turns, so in response to the fact that she doesnt know what to do with this centaur (whos just a fighter BTW) and all the info is written clearly on her character sheet, then she gets a bulls strength spell, and shes totally dumbfounded, shes enjoying playing it, so i cant hardly just remove the enjoyment, she needs some sort of initiative to be forced into reading and learning atleast the basics of the game.Â

 

it will be an open book quiz, i dont really want everyone the memorize the stuff, but atleast to know where to go to look when they have a problem.

Abilities

 1)    Âwhat ability dictates how many languages your character can speak?
 2)    Âwhat classes gain bonus spells based off their charisma?
 3)    Âname 2 skills that use the strength modifier?
 4)    Âwhat is the modifier for an ability score of 7?
 5)    Âaccording to the handbook what is the most common method of rolling your ability   scores?
 
Races

 1)    Âwhat are the 5 races available in the handbook?

 2)    ÂWho is shorter, halflings or gnomes?

 3)    ÂWhat are the ability adjustments for half-orcs?

 4)    ÂWhat is the favored class of a gnome?

 5)    ÂWhat races have dark vision?

  

Classes

 1)    ÂWhat classes have search as a class skill?
 2)    ÂWhat 2 classes need to carry a spellbook?

 3)    ÂWhat is the hit die of a monk?

 4)    ÂWhat classes can summon an animal companion?ÂA familiar?
 5)    ÂAt what level do rogues obtain uncanny dodge?

 

Skills

 1)    ÂWhat is the equasion to determine skill points for a druid?
 2)    ÂHow many classes have open lock as a class skill?
 3)    ÂWhat is the ability associated with the heal skill?
 4)    ÂWhat skill is a class skill for all classes?
 5) ÂBriefly describe a skill synergy.

 

Feats

 1)    ÂWhat are the prerequisites for cleave?

 2)    ÂWhat is the only item creation feat a level one character can obtain?

 3)    ÂWhat feat is required to fire a ranged weapon into melee without taking a penalty?

 4)    ÂWhat all feats are required to get Greater Weapon Specilizarion?
 5)    ÂWhat feat gives 3 extra hit points?

 

Equipment

 1)    ÂWhat is the equasion to calculate the starting gold for a fighter?
 2)    ÂHow many copper pieces are there in a platinum piece?
 3)    ÂName an exotic weapon.
 4)    ÂName a two-handed piercing weapon.
 5)    ÂWhat is the damage of a spiked chain to a medium target?

 

Combined/general

 1)    ÂName a weapon a fighter is not automatically proficient in.
 2)    ÂHow many feats would a level 14 human fighter have total?

 3)    ÂCan you switch from a sword and shield to a bow as a free action with the quick draw feat?
 4)    ÂWhat skills/feats would be helpful if you wished to capture someone in a lasso while mounted on the back of a charging horse?

 5)    ÂWhat is the desired effect of sundering?

Some of those questions don't seem like they'll help your player with combat options and some of the other problems she's having.  Why should she care what the preferred classes of the Gnome are if she's a centaur?

Why bog her down in spells information if she's a warrior?

Perhaps she needs a "training arena" in her town that she can spend some solo adventuring time with you in.  THen you can walk her through some things on her own that you think she's lacking in.  Add stickies (As mentioned) to her PHB for the information that you need her to be able to find, but don't want her to have to memorize.  And keep her character simple.  Honestly, if her being overwhelmed is crushing the enjoyment for you or other players, take away the centaur and any other complications until she is ready for them.  It'll help the overall game experience which should keep her interrested.

Chances are this character will eventually croak anyway.  Change things then.

then i made some sunder-cheesed ogres, and removed some of their overpowered equipment, lets see what hapens now.  i've opted out of the combat chapter quiz, i'm trying what everyone else says, and use the rules against them.  i'll again, keepyou all informed