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stonefro2000
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 | | 05/28/2007 9:09 PM |
| Hey all. All of you guys on Max Minis have be a big help to
me in the past, and once more I seek your advice on a serious matter. I have been asked to deliver the elegy
at my Grandfathers funeral. What worries me most is my ability to keep my emotions
in check. Â Any advice in doing this
would be most helpful. Â Thanks.Â
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Qucalion of Celene
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981 Posts
Salt Lake City, Utah
| | 05/28/2007 11:36 PM |
| My condolences for the passing of your grandfather.
When my mother passed away, I was asked if I wanted to give the eulogy. I asked if they really wanted me to speak . . . they said no. They know better than to let me speak my mind . . .
From the funerals I've been to, the one's I've thought were the most moving were the ones where they spoke about how their loved ones touched their lives. Sometimes it was humerous, sometimes it was angry, sometimes it was sorrowful. In all cases it was from the heart.
A eulogy is not only, in my mind, a time to talk about someone's life, but an opportunity to share how your life was impacted by their presence in it. A funeral is more about those left behind and sharing the love and beauty of the life they lived and to understand that they may no longer be on this sphere of existance, but they are not forgotten. Their body may have died. But the impact their life left behind will always live on.
I wish you the best.
I am sure you'll do wonderfully.
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yack
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3268 Posts
Gatineau Canada
| | 05/29/2007 4:28 AM |
| My condolences also on this
I did the one for my grandmother and what we did was go up the front with a couple more cousins and we split it up. That way when one was talking the other 2 would be just behind on the other side (they were there to jump in and take over in case emotions ran to high or just to give a gently pat on the back when you stumble and lock up).
One thing too keep in mind throw in cute little stories once in awhile with the great times that way it breaks the ice a little and makes it easier on yourself also. As stated above its about how great and the members of someones life and if it was mine thats how I would want mine to be told.
Sorry for lose and best wishes as it is tough.....
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Vrecknidj
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United States
| | 05/29/2007 8:30 AM |
| My condolences.
I've been to too many funerals already (and it looks like I have another one coming up soon).
I wish I had some advice about not becoming overwhelmed by emotions. I suppose the only advice I can give here is to go slowly and to remind yourself to occasionally take a few breaths. Nobody is in a hurry at a funeral, so, don't worry about taking your time.
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gss_000
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3204 Posts
Baltimore, MD
| | 05/29/2007 12:58 PM |
| Oh, geez, man. I'm so sorry. Although I have never given a eulogy, the following article seems to give really good advice, some already mentioned by others:
How to Give a Eulogy
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stonefro2000
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| | 05/29/2007 1:58 PM |
| | Thanks guys for your advice, and your condolences. | |
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Wolfgang
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| | 05/29/2007 3:18 PM |
| | I am sorry to hear about the passing of your grandfather and wish you well with the eulogy | |
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kyrin
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3168 Posts
| | 05/29/2007 5:21 PM |
| Condolences, stonefro. It is never an easy thing. Speaking at my father's funeral was simultaneously the easiest and hardest thing I've had to do. Easy because there was so much good to speak of him, but hard because he meant so much to me. It was hard to say goodbye.
Don't worry about keeping your emotions in check. Funerals are about catharsis. Anyone who doesn't realize that probably shouldn't attend them. Just speak the truth, and take your time.
I question the Esquire article majorly at one point: think long and hard about humor. It would NOT have gone over well with the people at my parents' funerals, which is why I didn't even try. Your friends and relations may be different.
Good luck.
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Bert the Troll
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| | 05/29/2007 11:04 PM |
| My Condaloences too.
I would also think carefully about humour, but it should be natural for you.
Also, like any speech, practice it. Write down what you wish to say, and read it out loud many times.
Best wishes for it.
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gss_000
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| | 05/30/2007 9:10 AM |
| | I think any of the advice, especially humor, has to be taken with a grain of salt. Do what feels good for you and what you feel would be good for your subject. If you do that no matter what it will be a fitting and appropriate tribute. Good luck with it. | |
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| | 05/30/2007 10:51 AM |
| | I did my Grandmother's elegy nearly a decade ago. I don't recall it being all that easy myself and I was quite suprised I was able to finish it without breaking down half-way. | |
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